Your boundary line
I heard several stories this week about people doing things they didn’t want to do and expressing the difficulty of saying, “No.”
Some think it’s their lot in life to be accommodating. Some complain that the people around them take advantage.
However, for every action there’s a reaction — consequences that might creep on you, little by little over time.
Even the most well-intentioned person can end up bulldozing you, if you don’t have any boundaries to stop them.
And you can physically see if someone’s boundaries are unhealthy. Something first happens on the energetic level, then we see it in events around us or in our bodies.
Think about someone with anorexia. They might feel encroached upon, and the only way they feel they can have control is to control what does not “encroach” upon them, even if it’s food.
And the mirror to that is someone who keeps on excessive weight. This person might be protecting themselves from something.
For instance, if you’ve been sexually abused, putting on weight might be a way of feeling unattractive and setting up a hard boundary that someone won’t cross physically.
You might think that having a huge wall or no boundary lines just affects you. But, remember, there’s always a consequence.
If there are bullies around you or people that seem very cold (not able to get close to you), could this be a boundary issue on your part?
Any time we see a pattern around us, it’s time to look inside. Who do you have to be to reflect the respect, consideration, and tender loving care that you need?
