Living in distractions

I’ve dated a couple of men who always had to have some noise in the background, at all times, whether it was music or the television.

I most certainly like to get my jam on around the house from time to time. But for someone like me, who enjoys silent meditations and quiet reading sessions, constant noise is what one would call a point of incompatibility.

And I’ve also dated men who, let’s say, were very fond of drugs. Please, don’t ask about my dating history. What do these men have in common (besides me)? Distractions.

All of these types of activities distract you from being with yourself. It’s covering something you’re not ready to be uncovered.

When you’re deep into an activity, or hopping from one activity to the next, without a moment of pause or reflection, there’s a good chance you’re avoiding yourself.

This distraction technique can also be used in ways we would call productive or healthy, like working non-stop, exercising, or organizing.

Some of these activities can be meditative. But make sure you check that if you’re not avoiding yourself, you might be avoiding someone else.

Is there a conversation you’re afraid to have with a family member? Could you be distracting yourself with an activity, because you have nothing to say to someone at home?

If you find yourself tired, with chronic pains – anything that causes you to physically stop, this could be your body telling you that you haven’t stopped for reflection, and it’s telling you to do so right now.

Listen to those body messages before they get too debilitating. There could be a world of hurt avoiding those.