It’s For Giving
One of the best gifts you can give yourself is to forgive. Otherwise, you live in the past and rehash the hurt and anger you felt towards someone else or even towards yourself.
When you live in those feelings, it becomes your present. Still living in those moments over and over again, you attract the darkness from that time and make it a passenger into your future.
One of my lessons in this timeline has been that people do the best they know how from their experiences, and from what they’ve been taught.
There are at least two ways of looking at any situation, so when it seems that a loved one is not being supportive and they just aren’t “getting” your vision, take a step back and look through their eyes.
Are they actually supporting you the best they know how? Are they trying to protect you from pain, the possibility of failure?
Remember, they will reflect their fears and limiting beliefs onto you. And it will only bother you if that fear or limiting belief resonates with you in some way – if you see that fear in yourself.
Nicolaus Copernicus comes to mind. I think about what it must have been like to have scientific evidence that the Earth revolves around the Sun, and that this planet is not at the center of the universe.
His loved ones probably begged him not to publish, afraid for his life in front of the Inquisition.
Whether his loved ones believed him or not, Copernicus probably didn’t feel very supported. And it wasn’t until he was on his deathbed decades later that he did publish this life-changing worldview.
In retrospect, we can understand why one wouldn’t want him to publish as soon as he knew this information. But to be in the moment of it, with so much holding him back, probably felt very alone and hurtful.
If your loved one could only see as far as a fence, but you could see beyond that fence — to a beach that leads to an ocean, would you fault them for only seeing as far as the fence post?
You are where you are. They are where they are.
Give yourself the gift of forgiving to be in the present moment and create your future with the optimism of now.
Go ahead. You deserve it.
