Gifting and convincing
Here’s a scenario. A friend or a relative has a problem. You pose a solution. The comment goes in one ear and out the other. A few days later, they make the same complaint. You repeat the solution. Over their head. A few weeks/months/years later, some rando poses the same solution to your friend. Your friend comes to you and says, “Oh, I solved my problem! I decided to do blah, blah, blah (your solution).”
How frustrating is that?! When you’re an outside party, an observer with no skin in the game, it can be so easy to see the faults in someone else. It’s much more difficult finding the errors of our own ways (if you’re not overly self-critical).
But in order to really ingest critique, that person must be an energetic match to hear it. And most likely they won’t receive it unless they asked for it in the first place.
And even when they ask, it seems like some people never take advice. So, how to take yourself out of this loop of trying to convince someone of your insights? Give a present and don’t ask when they’ve opened it.
Don’t ask how they like it. Don’t ask whether they’ve regifted it.
Some will never open it. Some will open it and receive it post haste. Some will forget about it and remember it years later. And some won’t be able to receive it from you, in particular, but they’ll enjoy it from someone else.
In quantum physics, everything occurs at the same time. All time is in instant. So every thought, every spoken word is out there to grab.
Share your knowledge with love, and take heart that it’s there in the ether to grab. It’s not your job to worry about the timing.
I know sometimes you’ll still worry about your advice being unheeded. But it all comes around. You’ll grab some advice meant for someone else, halfway across the world, in another moment in linear time.
